Sometimes it truly amazes me at how many people there are in this world who are irresponsible. I grew up in a home where responsibility was enforced. My mom didn’t play any games. It seems to me that most parents are too busy trying to be teenagers again rather than tending to their children and teaching them how to be responsible. It really peeves me to see people do things and not take responsibility for their actions. What’s more are those people who think that the whole world revolves around them and that everyone is supposed to give them hand-outs all of the time. Life is tough and honestly, if there never were a struggle for me in life, it would be completely boring. Call me crazy, but I like challenges, even if they get on my nerves from time to time. It just shows me what I’m capable of doing and if I’m not, how determined I am to achieve something even if I’m unable to accomplish certain things. It’s all about willpower, determination, and the realization that when it really comes down to it, you are responsible for your own actions, not anyone or anything else.
If I were to try to count how many people I know who are irresponsible, I could count on my hands, toes, and probably a few of your hands and toes as well. The sad thing is, most of these people are adults. Life is too damn short to slack up on things that need to be taken care of. Life is too damn short to “worry about things later”. You do what you have to do to survive because if you don’t, nobody sure as hell won’t care enough to do it for you. If they do, you are one lucky bastard. I’ve always been responsible for as long as I can remember and it’s because of my mother and her methods of upbringing. She was very strict and at the time, I disliked her for it, but as time progressed, I realized it helped me dearly in the long run. It was not easy making some of the transitions that I made in my life but I was determined not to setttle for anything less of what I was capable of. I still hold onto that value today and I never see it fading away. I’m at a point in my life where I refuse to keep being everyones superwoman. If you enter my life and get in the way of my life progressing, I will leave you behind and it’s as simple as that. It amazes me that a lot of people have distanced themselves from me since this change and that’s alright with me, because these were the same people who took me for granted and weren’t there when I needed them the most. That’s fine with me, I can do better without them.
Why do people think that you need them in your life? I seriously question people when they feel like I need them to be around me. Not to sound so harsh or withdrawn from the rest of the world, but I don’t need anyone. I have done a lot for myself and by myself for that matter. No one contributed to my achievements and they sure as hell aren’t getting credit for it. It seems that some people feel as though I owe them shit in life and I don’t owe anyone a damned thing. Excuse the rant, I have been dealing with some really stupid people.
Becca (despair) Says:
Wow. I know how you feel. I’m not really having that problem right now.. But I do see adults every day that don’t take any responsablity. It’s sad really, to see how most kids are being raised today. I’m only 18 and I’m more responable than a lot of adults I know.
I keep hoping things will get better in the future…but it seems that things are going further down the drain. :(
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Ciel Says:
i think people are rather just lazy than fight for the things you want to achieve. strugle can be hard, but it is worth it! wow that feeling afterwards.. when you achieved something you worked really hard for> best feeling in the world!
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* dawn Says:
welll said girl. one thing i love about your blogs, is you totally state the obvious, but you say it in a manner, where even if i dont agree with you, i totally see your point and i start to agree! lol.
parents are to worried about being their childs friend, then their parent. but kids also do worst things to their parents then they used to. and parents arent really allowed to discipline their kids anymore. my mom used to beat the crap out of me with a paddle, when i desserved it. and i have respect for her, kids dont have no respect.
looks like i’d be going to jail! my kids going to get disciple, no matter what the law says!
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Meshia Says:
i hated the way i raised but now it had paid off in the long run. i am still surprised and what i can deal with and what i can overcome. i look back sometimes from where i came from and more than eager to get where i am going. i’ve learned to let go and let god. i have dismissed people and lost a few along the way and sometimes the shit hurt but when i look back they weren’t doing anything but being dead weight. i wish them the the best but life doesn’t wait for anyone. i hate irresponsible people especially the ones with kids. why open you fucking legs then? momma and them is not suppose to raise your child YOU are. get on your grind and if your so grown don’t act like it be about it. there was once upon a time i thought i needed people but i got over that and realized that i don’t need nobody and in the end there is only me. i can stand on my own two feet just fine. loved this entry!
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Morgan Says:
Very deep, thoughtful and also very true. There are people out there, who would like to get credit for everyone someone else acheives. They would like to be thanked for every little thing they do, even if it’s not at all important. They also would like to be worshipped for every thing they ever acheived, even if it’s just something small. They have no idea of what real acheivement and such is. I hate them people.
And a lot of people are irresponsible. Most people out there ’should just grow up’ to state it boldly. Life is not a game, especially not when you are an adult and your actions do not only influence yourself.
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Easher Says:
You know, as a kid I never realized too much of the obvious or understood much. I always thought my mom was an asshole who never let me have any fun. I always called her all sorts of nasty names and convinced myself that she was a horrible mother and a sadistic woman. Typical stuff you’d expect a kid to think of a strict parent.
Meh, I guess in the end i was the asshole. I see mi mum struggled back and fourth with two jobs to put food on the table. I had no other influence of authority in the house besides her so of course she’s hard on me to behave, get things done right the first time and not slack off on my responsibilities.
I see now that all those cool parents out there who let their kids do whatever and did some of the same stupid actions with em are just cowards and horrible parents. The same kids I grew up with, the one whose parents I wish I had —grew up to be sorry people!
ah, a result due to the lack of responsibility I think.
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Kimmie Says:
Well I wouldn’t go so far as to say I don’t need anyone. I need my family and I need my true friends. However, I certainly don’t need stupid people in my life.
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admin Says:
[quote comment="1873"]Well I wouldn’t go so far as to say I don’t need anyone. I need my family and I need my true friends. However, I certainly don’t need stupid people in my life.[/quote]
I don’t look at my family as people to really trust or depend on. When my mother passed, most of my family turned their backs and I was granted guardianship of my two sisters at the age of 19. I had to give up school to provide for my family and a whole lot of other things that I feel like my other family members could have helped out with.
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Thea Says:
Yep, life is too short to being doing dumb shit. I hate irresponsible people. People who neglect to get ahold of ACTUALITY/REALITY and thrive on living in fantasy worlds. I know someone like that and it irks the hell outta me to see it. Maybe it comes with age or maturity? sometimes not at all…i guess…
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Jenn~ Says:
I know what you mean. There are A LOT of irresponsible people out there. And it truly is sad that the majority of them are adults. A lot of people are just plain lazy and they could care less.. plus, they are not being held responsible in most cases.
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Sheita Says:
I soooo feel you on this. Responsibility is almost non existant in some peoples eyes. Just like the whole “it’s the white mans fault” mantra….no..it’s your fault for not taking responsibility of your life and making it work for you.
As far as the people who dont need to be in your life…yea I’m going through the weening process now. Those who I know will bring postivity in my life shall stay, those who don’t, shall go. End of story and no room for explanations.
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♥ K Says:
A lot of adults become responsible I think mostly because of mid-life crisis. It happens to every adult and it just depends on the adult how they react to it. But, it plays a big role in their irresponsibility and childish behavior.. I’m sure they are sick of being responsible all of their lives and need a break… Think back then. There were hardly any lenient parents, everybody wanted their children exactly like this and like that… back then is nothing like now. I dunno, but thats just what I think about irresponsible older people. Teenagers… eh. Whatever, they will one day learn.
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Brittany Says:
Why people are so irresponsible will remain a mystery to me. Its hard to take. Our society (especially this day and age) are full of people who neglect children, forget important tasks, are unemployed, and just basically suck at life. They just have never been raised right. To me, its like they never grew up at all.
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(Olivia) Says:
Well since I’m in the process of becoming responsible for myself, I’ll speak for us slackers, lol. It’s hard. Growing up is hard. It’s not fun, and when you finally get there. It seems like there’s little more benefit.; like you just worked your butt off to get what you already had, lol
But, you all are, obviously right. Being responsible is the right thing to do.
I wouldn’t say I “need” anyone in my life. I can survive on my own. But, I would definitely feel major sadness without certain people in my world.
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Marie Says:
I totally agree, and it is sad to see :(
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Brandi Says:
Responsibility is a big deal to me as well. It irritates me when people try and pin their own mistakes on other people. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and accept your faults. I definitely can’t stand not taking responsibilities for my own actions, because I feel like a failure.
Yes, it is actually a bad habit to “need” someone. You can get caught in depending on other people for your happiness, which will just disappoint you in the end. Unfortunately, I’m like that with my boyfriend. I just need him in my life, but I don’t feel negative about it, because I feel at times, we need a “partner” for life. However, you make a valid and good point that we should lead up to our OWN accomplishments without too much help, which I pride myself on :) I love the fact that I take care of myself without any help from my mother and to me, that is a big deal.
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Noelle Says:
Agreed. There are so many people on this earth who are irresponsable and not indepent, when they need to be. I mean, people who are over 18 without a job, living off their parents. That’s horrible. People who don’t take responsibility for their actions, whether it be positive or negative. And as you say; i love a challenge. I do create my own challenges sometimes, but I love pushing myself and being independent. And when I ‘fail’ I will take it as a learning experience, instead of putting the blame on everything and everyone else.
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jane. Says:
you know I agree with you 100%. I think you should be a teacher or something because I think alot of girls, young people PERIOD would benefit from just being around you and looking to you as an example. I’ve noticed that the same way being responsible can be second nature to someone like yourself, it really doesn’t even dawn on others. I have a friend who has a daughter and on more then one occasion she’s come over, looking cute(the mom) but only bought one bottle for her child, who she knew was staying the night with her. or didn’t check the weather and had no coat for the child. things like that are plain lazy & irresponsible but she’s just got her head other places. good post miss new boobies. ♥
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Angie Says:
My family period is irresponsible. I know so many young mothers who are irresponsible. I really feel bad for the kids who are going to grow up with washed up mothers or mothers who won’t be there. There’s always somebody who’s trying to “live life” or “stay young”. I don’t see anything wrong with the way life is with your responsibilities. You can enjoy yourself without being wild.
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terin selena Says:
i wish everyone could realize that life was too short to be acting so crazy. there are so many irresponsible people because you have other irresponsible people reproducing and bringing up their children in the same manner. and to think that it’s probably only going to get worse.
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Miss April Joy Says:
That is interesting and I have a low tolerance for ignorance and people who cannot take care of business and are irresponsible, like you said. The sad thing is that alot of people who I know and label as being irresponsible are adults and in some cases parents and I just wish I can slap some sense into some people so they can prioritize and do better!
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Gwanii Says:
I know what you mean! Too many grown ass people hitting the club and trying to friends with their kids and not their parent & friend which then produces kids who think that they are grown and can do whatever they want. Then they have kids and be triflin and then their kids end up triflin. It’s just all too much. If you’re going to have kids be a damn parent to them or shoot yourself and give them to someone who is going to care for them.
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Eilidh Says:
I rally do know what you mean about the responsibility thing - my parents are really serious about it with me, so I know all about it and i have a hard time respecting people who aren’t responsible for their actions :(
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Destiny Says:
Some people just want to live life like “there’s no tomorrow” and that’s their excuse for still being reckless, drinking and driving, irresponsible, deny their “callings” or dedicate their hard earned money (if they’re not slackers) to fulfill their drinking habits and really have no realistic goals in their lives. I’m probably on the same bar and page as you… I’ve cut down my lists of friends, and have taken a stand against the childish behaviors and irresponsible and reckless decisions. It’s no longer ok because society has accepted it and have not elaborated on the expenses and costs of other’s sacrifices. That’s the saddest part…
Hopefully you will be able to cut out the negativity in you life and not view it as it’s an attack on yourself. We fail to see that we are moving on from it when we continue to make ourselves the victims.
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Clare Says:
I don’t understand why adults can’t accept the fact that they have to keep the responsibitly. It annoys me too.
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Gwen Says:
I feel like I’m always the responsible one and sometimes it’s kinda a drag cause I feel like I’m no fun. But yeah, unresponsible people annoy me too. It’s good that your mother raised you to be responsible.. for me it’s a little different. My parents tend to be irresponsible so I have to act as the adult. :/
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Shellz Says:
yeah some parents worry so much about being accepted and fitting in with their own children and try to be “cool” when they should really be focusing on teaching them values.
I really hate when people don’t take responsibility for their actions and always make excuses for everything they do, but they’ll get nowhere in life.
and yeah, challenges is what makes life how it is…and then it makes you appreciate the good times. :)
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fattease Says:
everyone else is overrated anyway!
keep rockin girl
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