I’m always going through a lot of things it seems. Over the years, I’ve been through many things that have changed my attitude and outlook on life. Some people can’t understand that sometimes when you go through things, you need time to get yourself together and deal with whatever it is that you have to deal with. This year has been proven to be one of the worst years in terms of the people I call my friends and associates. This pregnancy was the highlight of my year and with that being said, I had to focus on myself and keeping healthy. It proved to be quite a task. There were people in my life who couldn’t understand that I was going through a life change. Whether or not I was already a mother, there was a new baby coming into the picture and that was the main focus.
People had trouble adjusting to my Cancerian ways. Whenever my life changes significantly, I tend to crawl back into my crabby shell, where I can work on myself and begin to make the necessary changes in my life. It’s not that I was being antisocial or anything of that nature but I tend to deal with things better by myself. Pride has nothing to do with this and people thought I had too much pride in accepting their helping hands. I simply do better on my own.
Besides the fact that I wouldn’t accept these extended offerings, people had trouble adjusting to the fact that I wasn’t able to give them the attention that they desired. Their selfish ways is what set my anger ablaze and I began cutting people out of my life. I never wanted to go through what I was going through with people adding that extra stress onto things. I am not obligated to give anyone that special attention they want, especially when I have things going on in my life that I need to handle. Cutting people off proved to be just what I needed because as of now, I am content with the friends and associates that I have, who are understanding and supportive.
Now that I have made the necessary changes in the people I choose to be in my life, I can continue to work on my personal life in peace and not having to worry about who’s going to come to me with whiny behavior like I’m their mother. Everyone deserves a chance to work on themselves, by themselves, if that’s how they desire to do things. I happen to be one of those people and I hope that people have learned a very valuable lesson about being selfish. I hated having to keep explaining myself and my situations over and over again. It was repetitive and very annoying to say the least. How many times should I have to repeat myself? I shouldn’t have to, and that’s the bottom line.
Kay Says:
There is nothing wrong with dealing with things on your own. I tend to get like that when dealing with pressure. We’re women, not all of us are the same. You like the privacey and space that’s necessary for you and your child.
You’re absolutely right about friends. Cut them out of your life if they don’t serve any purpose. You have a child to think about. Let me re-phrase that. You have two little ones to think for and to care for. They come 1st always. Do what is best your family.
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Kirsten Says:
It’s really hard to cut some people out of your life. But sometimes it just has to be done. Some people really are selfish and it’s not always worth it to keep them in your life. Sometimes it’s completely detrimental and you have no other choice.
I’m a cancer and it’s weird (or maybe it isn’t) I do the same thing. I tend to crawl back into my shell when I’m unsure of things. When I need time to think. The time to figure things out.
It’s great that you focused on yourself and keeping healthy. Your pregnancy and yourself had to come first. It might have been hard to do but I’m sure it was worth it. But you know that.
Everyone deserves a chance to just take a time out from everyone else and work on themselves. I’m learning that the hard way but I’m learning it. And your right you shouldn’t have had to repeat yourself over and over again. Once should have been enough.
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Georgiana Says:
You are truly an interesting person. I’ve visited every page and it seems that you’ve added your own persona on all of them.You have very interesting topics of discussion. I’ll check you every now and then.
Thank you for the visit and the comment. It is true that not many people are suited to be parents, but I don’t anyone should have the right to kill their own baby.
Speaking of babies, how far long are you?
I can’t image a greater joy that being pregnant and bringing your own little flesh and blood into the world! God bless you! Take care and don’t let too many things affect you too much.
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Destiny Says:
People who don’t provide themselves with the time to be in their own skin and mind will never realize the true value of that and always using the other “motives” to try and identify what you’re going through. I think it comes down to the individual, right now, I’m going through a semi-anti-social stage where it’s an awkward presence but I’m trying to not isolate myself because the changes that I need to make, I need accountability and also support for it. So it also depends on the changes that you go through, whether or not you should allow complete withdrawals or maintain some degree of contact for support.
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Teff Says:
There is absolutely nothing wrong with dealing things on your own and people just need to learn to understand that just because you’re a mother once, doesn’t mean it’ll be the same with a second, third, or even tenth child. Every time is different. I’ve got two girls and I had to take much better care of myself and spend much more time taking care of myself and my daughter because I was having so many complications with Lyvia compared to Isabella. Mind you, that doesn’t mean I didn’t care for myself and Isabella! It’s just things are different every time. Life changes, and it sucks that people get so selfish and can’t understand what you’re going through. But I’m a kind of person who also needs support too - that’s why when I have stuff like that happen, I tend to only keep my Mom (until things went down with her) and my boyfriend and daughters close. I don’t really have friends so I don’t really have to worry about it. What can I say, I’m a loser ^_^ Ha ha. I hope you don’t mind but I’m going to link you ^_^
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leaielle Says:
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Jennifer Says:
SERIOUSLY. I get the same way and everyone thinks I’m a total bitch. Everyone deserves time to improve upon themselves. So screw everyone who isn’t supportive.
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Miss April Joy Says:
I completely agree, it just bothers me when I try to better myself and need some time to get it all together, people take that as being cold, mean, and shelters and not wanting to return phone calls right away or talk as much as I used to. When I’m faced with those situations funny enough I remember the movie Little Miss Sunshine and a quote saying “Do what you love and f*ck the rest”
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Angel Says:
I don’t understand the obsessive need to depend on someone when they are having lifestyle changes. People are so selfish sometimes. It reminds me a lot of my family who constantly feel the need to “depend” on me and when I don’t respond I’m suddenly a problem or rude and etc. I’m glad you’re taking out time for you. You always do so much for other people. You deserve it.
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Jazzie V Says:
Girl, being a cancer myself I totally hear ya. People don’t understand that I am not a very open person and when I’m dealing with things I do it on my own.
Take care of yourself, get rested that baby will be here before ya know it and resting days will be limited.
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Trecia Says:
People are going to behave stupidly, needy etc.. for whatever reason.. If they want to think you are said and said.. let them as long as your taking care of yourself and yours thats the most important thing.
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Tai Says:
You seem more like a capricorn. LOL. There is nothing wrong with spending time to yourself. I do it all the time and I get bitched at about me acting like a straight up bitch and etc. I get called a lot of names behind my back - a lot. But I don’t worry about all that because I am going to continue to have that time by myself. Oh tell the people what I tell my people “KISS MY ASS”. That always work boo!
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Brandy Says:
Unfortunately, there’s not much we can do about the stupid and selfish people who surround us. There are some people who have difficulty, and just can’t accept you for whom you are. Some go as far as pushing you into something you don’t want to do, nor be. Can’t even give you the time of day.
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Brandi Says:
A pregnancy is a HUGE and life-changing event, so to say that anyone would turn sour over you trying to work on yourself as a person during this time, is indeed selfish! I can’t believe how low people can be, especially when you have every right to yourself. I’m the same way. I go throw periods where I’m social, however, my life is a constant roller coaster, so I’m the type of person that requires alone time with just my boyfriend when I need to grieve or lick my wounds and people have a hard time understanding that.
Stay strong, girlie! You’re doing so wonderful right now and I’m just very happy for you and your bliss :)
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lilrongal Says:
If you’ve been dropping everything for people in the past, they’re going to get angry when you suddenly pull away, even though you have good reason. Finding that balance can be tricky, though. You don’t want to alienate your friends when you are in your shell, however a true friend will let you have your space without taking it personally, and be there for you when you come back out to play.
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