Quite frankly, I’m a person who doesn’t like to be talked to any kind of way. I’m more than sure that some of you possess this same intolerance. One thing to remember is that you cannot let a man talk to you any kind of way that he desires. If you allow it to happen in the first place, it will continue to happen and you will lose control over those types of situations. Ladies, it’s ok to be stern. If a man decides that he doesn’t like that you’re stern to him, then he hasn’t any respect for you. A man will try to test your patience and your personality. Being stern does not make you a bad person, it just means you won’t tolerate any bullshit. If you allow a man to disrespect you, then you don’t have any respect for yourself. What you allow for yourself, will be how others go about treating you, and that my dear, is sometimes a very bad thing. If you ever observe the behaviors of a man, you will notice that he holds certain levels of respect in high regard. For example, there will be some women he will respect and some that he will not. The respect he will hold for you, depends on YOU. A man will only get away with what you allow him to get away with. The more silent you are about it, the more he will continue to be disrespectful or lack thereof. If you continue to be stern and he still inflicts you with disrespect, then you just need to leave him the fuck alone. That is unacceptable behavior and the outcome will never be good, so why waste your time? There are too many good men out here to dwell on one, idiotic imbecile. If he wants respect, he has to earn your respect. Let me tell you something, we’re no longer in the old days anymore. Women are more than independent these days. You don’t have to listen to some scraggly nigga. If he isn’t providing the mental support that a mate should, then you don’t need him. It’s that simple.
A man who loves you will never want to hurt you or make you feel bad about anything. The one technique I have seen men use is this… when he does something wrong and you confront him about it, he’ll always try to flip the situation and bring up some shit that’s going to have you thinking and feeling bad. Why does it make you feel bad? Because he knows you too well and he knows what will make you tick, feel bad, or even feel good. Never let him make you feel bad. Acknowledge his words and bring the primacy topic back into focus. If you dwell too long on what he’s trying to make you feel bad about, your original argument will be forgotten and he walks free. He tries to justify his wrongs by making you feel bad about something in particular. Good technique but once you begin to observe patterns, it becomes old, boring and predictable.
If your man can go out, so can you. If your man can have female friends, then you can have male friends. However, don’t just befriend the fellas to get back at your companion. It makes you seem immature and petty. If your man is accusing you of something, he’s pointing fingers and we all know, when you point fingers, there are always 3 pointing back at you. Go head, try it. It’s pretty neat. Everything in this entry is about respect. Once a moderate level of respect is obtained, a strong sense of understanding emerges. When this happens, each party is more willing to listen to the other and respect the opinions and/or feelings of their mate. I can’t stress how important understanding is, then again, that’s a totally different topic to be discussed. The primary focus is to respect yourself. In doing so, you may find that more people will ultimately respect you.
